Jodi Brichta-Coyne, Coach/Author/Speaker

   As a woman, mom, wife, friend, daughter, business-owner and someone juggling all the balls in the air with the endless to-do lists, the one thing that I use to think was "is everyone happy by my efforts?" You see, I am a recovering people-pleaser and was constantly looking for validation from others in return. When I would do something for someone else, I expected that they either: 1) be grateful or 2) do something for me in return down the road. It seemed the more I did, the more people expected from me. So, I kept doing and kept seeking their approval. I would do anything to feel validated, buy them things thinking they would be over the moon and appreciative. I would offer to do services such as watch their kids, or do errands or even offer and go visit them because I knew they wouldn't visit me and my family and I wanted them to like me. As the years went on and I had my own kids and to be honest, I was expecting others to just help me out. However, that wasn...

      Can you imagine becoming a "guilt-free" mom? seems impossible for most as we tend to live there more often than not these days. Ever wonder why is that? Does this sound like you....your day starts the moment your feet touch the floor. You get out of bed only to climb aboard the perpetual mouse exercise wheel where you spin endlessly (taking care of the kids, home, work, chores etc) until you clock out at night. By the time you climb out, you are tired and dizzy and collapse onto your bed in complete exhaustion.... only to feel GUILT!    I used to live there much too often. I was never good enough, never finished what I started, was constantly running around like a chicken with no head, and always felt that I was not doing right by my children and well...GUILTY!! Today, I am here to tell you ENOUGH,..NO MORE!!! a true mom goddess must learn not to harness such a demeaning emotion. So, to better understand it, let's first look at the word....

  I can't believe it has been so long since I wrote and I promised myself that I wouldn't be that person that starts something and doesn't follow through.  Although, these past few months have been such a learning curve for me, I feel that now I am ready and confident to live up to my convictions.  I recently, completed my website: www.momgoddesscoach.com and am passionately excited about it.  I thought long and hard about my transitional year and all the lessons I learned along the way.   One of the biggest lessons that I learned is that in order to do everything for everyone else, I had to take care of "me" first.  It is the same as when you board a plan and the airline attendant gets up in front and starts giving you instructions and says in "in the event the cabin pressure is low, an oxygen mask will drop in front of you, please put the MASK ON YOURSELF FIRST, then put it on small children and elders."  If you think about it, it is so true.  ...